21. SEX outside of marriage

Question and answer: “All my friends are doing it, so why can’t I?”

In all probability not all your friends are doing it, they just want to sound cool, pretending to be mature. There is nothing mature about sex outside of marriage, animals like pigs and donkeys mate whom they want and never get married! With the problems of unplanned pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases and broken hearts, it would be foolish to experiment or to try it ‘the once’. The once will turn into many times and before you know it ‘your sins will find you out’.

Genesis 2:24 ‘A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh’

Sexual intercourse is a spiritual union where two people become one. If you have slept around, spiritually your soul is a bit confused. You need to repent and to renounce what you have done. If you have lost your virginity outside of marriage, then you need also to repent, and remember now that you have become a new creation 2 Corinthians 5:17.

Wisdom: Respect and love is the ability to walk away from something you desire (sex) to protect something or someone you love. To let a fool kiss you is stupid, but to let a kiss fool you is worse.

In a relationship both parties have to be smart. Be careful what you wear, don’t be provocative and dress wisely. Keep your hands to yourself, enjoy the relationship and don’t be controlled by lust. Try not to be alone together in a room where the door is shut. Purity is the name of the game; and ‘give no appearance of evil’.

1 Corinthians 6:20 ‘Glorify God in your body and in your Spirit…’

Fact: Your virginity is one of the few things that you give away once, and never have the opportunity to get it back. A stolen moment of pleasure is not worth days or weeks of worry and a lifetime of regret.

Sex is like a fire; the same flame that warms a home can burn it down. God’s proper place and time for sex is in the context of marriage.

Think: Have I mistaken love for lust? Love waits for marriage.

More Info: Proverbs 5, Matthew 5:27,28, 6:33, 15:19,20, Romans 6:15-23, 1 Corinthians 6:12-20, Galatians 5:16-21,Colossians 3:5-7, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-6, 1 Timothy 5:1-2.

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